George Elliot once said - “It will never rain roses: when we want to have more roses, we must plant more trees.” When it comes to feeling beautiful and self-confident, the same is true. You must first plant your seeds. Once planted, those seeds will bloom and grow in their own time. And whether you plant positivity or negativity, you will reap what you sow. When seeking to cultivate beauty you need to be mindful and selective of which thoughts and beliefs you entertain or nurture, and subsequently which thoughts and beliefs you need to discard or weed. So grab a journal, find a quiet place and take the time to do so now.
1. Prepare your soil
For this step, you need to stop and identify what you personally think and feel when it comes to beauty. Often we may entertain conflicting thoughts and emotions regarding what beauty means to us individually. As a result of those conflicting thoughts and emotions we unknowingly allow that inner confusion and conflict to cause us psychological stress. And in doing so, we often mistake our physical appearance to be the source of that stress rather than our conflicting convictions.
To avoid this inner uncertainty, get clear on what beauty means to you by asking yourself:
* What is my definition of beauty?
* How does that definition differ from the standards I place upon myself?
* What qualities do I believe make a woman truly beautiful?
* If I were to possess those same qualities, what three words would I use to describe the feeling?
Write your responses down.
2. Plant your seeds
Next, take the time to consider which thoughts you need to plant. To do this, ask yourself:
* Where do I need more self-acceptance, self-worth, patience, kindness, understanding, and/or forgiveness of self and others to blossom in my life?
* In what ways can I incorporate the feelings I identified in Question 4 above into my daily life?
Write your responses down.
Lastly, consider which thoughts you need to discard. To do this, ask yourself where you need to remove self-criticism, self-doubt, jealousy, envy, the opinions and standards of others, comparison, and any other negative thoughts and emotions that have been left untended and have therefore been enabled to choke out the positive ones.
Just like a garden, it is the work that is done in the soil, meaning underneath or within, that governs its beauty and success, and your life is the same. To cultivate beauty and enhance your own self-confidence you need to get clear on what beauty really is and what it means and feels like to you. And once you have done so, you need to diligently and mindfully tend to your garden by planting, nurturing, and weeding it often.
Beauty isn't about having a pretty face; it's about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart, and a pretty soul.
Leigh-Ann Comarmond is the creator of Mindful Beauty Therapy™ www.enthrallingbeauty.com.au